They point up how imperfectly behavioral scientists understand what attracts us to a certain person at one time in our lives, but to a completely different kind of person at another. Violet and Ned add two more bits of anecdotal evidence to our dawning understanding that many of us possess more sexual flexibility than we ever knew.
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Just come and visit me periodically. And even among men who were out and active members of the LGBT community, misogyny lingered. In one case, a bisexual man made it clear he would be seeing other men but banned her from dating anyone else and confined her to their home to take care of their children. Some couples found that while their relationship was stable, that they struggled to find acceptance in others. What are the rules? Where do we have sex? Is the bedroom a sacred space or can others come into bed with us?
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But to assume that every man who will have sex with, but not date, other men is simply repressed or unwilling to think deeply about his identity is to ignore the complex inner life of many of these men. But why do we insist that people like Jay must be battling internal demons, rather than just accepting that they may have reached the boundaries of their own identities? This distinction can be a useful way to explain why, say, you might want to hold hands and share a life with someone even as the idea of rubbing your bits together holds less appeal. Or explain the attitudes of people for whom sexual and romantic attractions are both present, but manifest in different ways.
And while heteroromantic bisexuals are more common, and much more discussed, there are people at the other end of the spectrum: Lux Alptraum is a writer, comedian, and consultant with one thing on her mind. Follow her on Twitter at luxalptraum.
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